How do I respond to my husband going on an exotic vacation for three weeks this year without me?
Monday, September 21st, 2009Pit asked:
My husband went on a three week vacation to Italy last year with his father and step mother and I was not invited. Mostly because it was a payback to my husband for being a good son and it was kind of owed to him per his dad. At first I was hesitant and angry but later agreed it was for a good cause. We had agreed after that if his dad were to come to him again with this offer that he would decline or at least offer me the chance to go. Well, again, my husband’s father asked him to go on a three week vacation this year again to Brazil and I was not asked again to go and I had already book our family’s vacation on a cruise this summer and I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. I was told that I’m being selfish for feeling the way that I do about this and I’m thinking that they are being selfish! If his father knew that he was going to be going on another vacation this year and wanted my husband to go wouldn’t he have let us know in advance so that I would not have booked our vacation and saved my money so that I would have the opportunity to go? I’m so angry with his father that its driving a wedge between my husband and I. What should I do? I’ve been so patient and understanding but its not fair that I’m always being pushed to the back before his father. What do I do?
Nancy
My husband went on a three week vacation to Italy last year with his father and step mother and I was not invited. Mostly because it was a payback to my husband for being a good son and it was kind of owed to him per his dad. At first I was hesitant and angry but later agreed it was for a good cause. We had agreed after that if his dad were to come to him again with this offer that he would decline or at least offer me the chance to go. Well, again, my husband’s father asked him to go on a three week vacation this year again to Brazil and I was not asked again to go and I had already book our family’s vacation on a cruise this summer and I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. I was told that I’m being selfish for feeling the way that I do about this and I’m thinking that they are being selfish! If his father knew that he was going to be going on another vacation this year and wanted my husband to go wouldn’t he have let us know in advance so that I would not have booked our vacation and saved my money so that I would have the opportunity to go? I’m so angry with his father that its driving a wedge between my husband and I. What should I do? I’ve been so patient and understanding but its not fair that I’m always being pushed to the back before his father. What do I do?
Nancy